How Reiki Opnend My Heart (an LGBTQ+ Story)
As a Reiki Master, with a deep spiritual practice, I have tremendous gratitude for Reiki and all that it has taught me, especially how it has again and again opened my heart and taught me to trust. I have learned how to get out of my head and stop over-thinking and instead to go into my heart and trust what I already know. I’ve learned over the many years of practice that the ego lives in the mind and the higher self lives in the heart.
I also have learned a lot about the Law of Attraction. Just in case this is a new term for you, I would like to explain. I’ve learned that the Law of Attraction states that what you put your attention on, the universe (which loves you unconditionally!) delivers to you.
Sounds great, right?
Well then why does it not always work out that way?
This is because the universe does not discriminate. It gives you anything and everything that you put your attention on, the positive as well as the negative.
Let me explain a little further.
The universe is made up of energy, and does not understand language, it only understands VIBRATION. Your thoughts and feelings are made up from vibrations, and whatever your strongest vibration is at the moment is what the universe is manifesting for you. It is important to really think about this, and notice if your primary vibration is one of FEAR or one of LOVE. (See the attachment below of David Hawkins Map of Consciousness)
A few years ago my eldest child came out to me to tell me that she wished to identify as Pansexual. I didn’t even know what that term ment, but after she explained to me that a Pansexual person loves or is attracted to someone regardless of their gender, that they like who the person is at their core, not who they are on the outside or the social construct of their gender, I could feel my heart just swoon, and open even further! I thought to myself, ‘This kid really gets it!’ Love is just LOVE, and she is not judging someone based on their skin color, religion, economic status, or what type of clothes they wear, or even which pronouns they use, she just wants to like them for the type of person they are deep at their core. If they are kind, loving, funny, intelligent, etc…
A few years after that, my child confessed that she no longer identifies with the gender she was born in. She said that she told his friends a few months prior and was now asking us to call him by a new name, and use he/him/his for his pronouns. Even though I wasn’t completely surprised by this, after all this was the same kid who cried at age 10, after I told him about puberty and how his body would soon begin to change its shape and develop. I still worried about how others would perceive him. Could they see through the way he dressed, and the shape of his body, to his beautiful, kind and generous heart and see that he was still a beautiful human, a good person, deserving of love, generosity, kindness and opportunity, just like everyone else?
I’m not going to lie, I was a little worried about this news. Scared as to what it would mean for him, and concerned about what his future would be like. Would anyone accept him, love him, like I do?
And then I paused for a moment, before saying or doing anything else, and in that moment, before I reacted to this very BIG NEWS, I remembered what Reiki taught me about the Law of Attraction. I knew that in order for the rest of the world to accept him, that he needed to accept himself FIRST. I also knew that a huge part of him accepting himself started with ME accepting him.
So, I immediately opened up my heart and my arms and cradled him in a large embrace, hugging and kissing him. I told him how proud I was of him for feeling comfortable enough to tell me, for confiding in me with this very important news. I held his face in between my hands and told him “I love you. No matter what!! There is nothing that you could do to destroy my love for you.”
This was a promise that I made to him many years before, when he was just 6 years old, and worried he was going to do something to anger me, or upset me, and lose my love (was his soul foreshadowing, perhaps?). This was a promise that I made to him all those years before and would never break.
I have often wondered if I would have been so easily able to open up my heart if I didn’t have Reiki in my life to guide me. I am glad that I will never need to find out, and so grateful for the love that Reiki has provided me as well as to my family!
So, if there is anyone out there who knows a child who identifies as LGBTQIA+, I get it, this world is a hard place, but your child will feel so much better knowing that they are loved and accepted by the people who know them best. Even if you don’t understand it, even if you have questions, the best thing you can do is give them your unconditional love.
I think the passage Corinthians 13:4–8 says it best.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. (NIV84)
